7 Telltale Things Bullies Say

7 Telltale Things Bullies SayBullying is a serious problem that affects many young people in the modern world. From being taunted online to dealing with harassment at school, there are many ways that your child could be suffering. The sorry truth of the matter is that many bullies follow the same pattern of behavior. A lot of them even end up saying the same things to their victims. If you want to spot a bully, you should watch out for some of these telltale phrases.

  1. “I’m not a bully. I’m just honest!”

Many bullies tend to use this as one of their main excuses. They will use the guise of being ‘honest’ when really they are being brutal. This is the way that they justify the awful, mean things that they say to others. What’s worse is often they don’t see that what they are doing is bullying someone who is vulnerable.

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  1. “Nobody likes you.”

One of the major things that bullies try to do is alienate people. It’s the whole ‘divide and conquer’ tactic of bullying that can often be very damaging. They may tell they victim that no one likes them or they have no friends. In doing so, they make the person feel utterly alone and helpless.

  1. “You’re ugly / fat / stupid!”

Of course, these are phrases that everyone has heard at some point in their lives. (Sadly, many of us have had to deal with bullying in both our youth and adult lives!) Many people who feel insecure in themselves will go ahead and comment on other people’s characteristics. From their weight to their intellect, they will try to tear their victim down one insult at a time.

  1. “Why are you here?”

Again, it’s very obvious what the bully is trying to do when they say something like this. The idea (whether it’s subconscious or otherwise) is to make the person feel as though they just don’t belong. It’s a way of making them feel like an outsider!

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  1. “Oh wow. Are you going to cry?”

This is one of the most common things that bullies say. They push and push and push their victims until they are on the brink of tears. Then, when it looks as though the victim is about to break, they say this to push them over the edge. It’s vindictive and cruel.

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  1. “You’re so annoying!”

If all else fails, a bully may turn to general insults. They could say something like this in general conversation or in a group setting. The aim here is to get other people to agree with them on some level so that it brings the victim down.

  1. “Go kill yourself.”

Finally, here’s the absolute worst thing that a bully can say. We already know that there is a high rate of suicides linked with bullying in the US. Encouraging someone to kill themselves is one of the cruelest things a person can do. Yet many bullies think nothing of saying this hateful sentence.

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  • This is so true. It’s sad that people treat others like this. I always warn my kids are bullies.

  • Bullying is a big problem everywhere. My sister went thru the same phase and it was difficult for her concentrate in the class. Because of that she didn’t get good grades in high school.

  • Sometimes kids are bullies because someone else is hurting them. Bullies need help.

  • It always amazes me how people think words don’t hurt. They really can and it doesn’t take actions to hurt someone’s emotions.

  • Its so hard to deal with bullies. Doesn’t matter what age you are, they are there. I wish there was a good solution to learn from.

  • Jay Simms

    These are all things bullies say. It is sad that these things are said, especially to little kids.

  • Bullying has always been an issue and I am so sad that it has gotten so bad. I grew up bullied, so I try hard to teach my kids to treat everyone how they want to be treated!

  • It’s terrible that kids feel the need to treat others so badly. Some kids are overly sensitive and can’t take other kids being mean to them! Bullies know this and that’s how those children become targets. So sad.

  • Elizabeth O.

    These are so accurate. I really wish we could end bullying once and for all, but it looks like it’s going to take a lot of time still. For me, if we want it to end, we have to start at home because that’s where the kids learn first.

  • Leigh Anne Borders

    As a teacher, I am constantly listening to what the kids say. As soon as I hear something like this or other things, I quickly jump into action and tell them this is bullying. I think kids are not always aware of what is and what is not bullying. So sad that it is such a bad issue in our world today with social media.

  • Andrea

    It is a shame that some children become bullies and that other children suffer from it. When I was growing up, there was a bully that told #7 to my sister, and I haven’t ever been able to forgive them.

  • Bel

    These are all true and very harsh. We need to eradicate bullying and fast

  • Those are some pretty nasty things to say. I’m glad I’m not a kid today!

  • Omg these are horrible! I think that mostly bullies act the way they do because they are bullied too – be it by their parents, another peer group, by low self-confidence or by general life conditions and status. I can’t comprehend how someone could say these things to another human being. But I think that most kids and teenagers don’t really know what they are saying and how it impacts the child that is bullied… 🙁

  • This is a serious matter and we should all be aware of this and make sure to talk to the young ones about it. It is important to be discussed and explain well that we are here for them no matter what. Thanks for sharing this article.

  • Misty Nelson Dawn

    These are all true, Other kids use to bully because they hurt or need a good attention I think.

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