Bullying is a serious problem that affects many young people in the modern world. From being taunted online to dealing with harassment at school, there are many ways that your child could be suffering. The sorry truth of the matter is that many bullies follow the same pattern of behavior. A lot of them even end up saying the same things to their victims. If you want to spot a bully, you should watch out for some of these telltale phrases.
“I’m not a bully. I’m just honest!”
Many bullies tend to use this as one of their main excuses. They will use the guise of being ‘honest’ when really they are being brutal. This is the way that they justify the awful, mean things that they say to others. What’s worse is often they don’t see that what they are doing is bullying someone who is vulnerable.
“Nobody likes you.”
One of the major things that bullies try to do is alienate people. It’s the whole ‘divide and conquer’ tactic of bullying that can often be very damaging. They may tell they victim that no one likes them or they have no friends. In doing so, they make the person feel utterly alone and helpless.
“You’re ugly / fat / stupid!”
Of course, these are phrases that everyone has heard at some point in their lives. (Sadly, many of us have had to deal with bullying in both our youth and adult lives!) Many people who feel insecure in themselves will go ahead and comment on other people’s characteristics. From their weight to their intellect, they will try to tear their victim down one insult at a time.
“Why are you here?”
Again, it’s very obvious what the bully is trying to do when they say something like this. The idea (whether it’s subconscious or otherwise) is to make the person feel as though they just don’t belong. It’s a way of making them feel like an outsider!
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“Oh wow. Are you going to cry?”
This is one of the most common things that bullies say. They push and push and push their victims until they are on the brink of tears. Then, when it looks as though the victim is about to break, they say this to push them over the edge. It’s vindictive and cruel.
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“You’re so annoying!”
If all else fails, a bully may turn to general insults. They could say something like this in general conversation or in a group setting. The aim here is to get other people to agree with them on some level so that it brings the victim down.
“Go kill yourself.”
Finally, here’s the absolute worst thing that a bully can say. We already know that there is a high rate of suicides linked with bullying in the US. Encouraging someone to kill themselves is one of the cruelest things a person can do. Yet many bullies think nothing of saying this hateful sentence.